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In this episode of The Family Couch, Parenting Strategist, Asadah Kirkland talks with us about the cultural epidemic of black parents beating their children. The author of “Beating Black Kids” – Asadah Kirkland explains in depth that while this may not just be a “black” problem, it is commonplace throughout the black community.
We discuss the origins of how “beating” (a term used to describe a form of discipline) your children came to be and how prevalent it is in all socioeconomic communities.
Asadah explains that as parents, we cannot expect a change to happen in our community as far as policy brutality, violence, and crime if we do not first change our behavior and violence at home.
What we teach our children is what they grow up to be.
We dive into the importance of communication and having a two way flow between parents and children. We cannot talk at them but, instead need to learn to wait for a response, listen, make sure they understand.
We discuss the importance of reflective thinking and the environment that you can create in your home. Asadah gives alternative examples for punishment that create a home of reflection and civility. She goes on to teach you how to give your child a therapeutic environment where they actually want to go and reset after inappropriate behavior.
Lastly, we discuss the paradigms that parents teach their children and what impact these may have on their future: “Is life hard?” Do we show it to our kids? How much should we show?”
It was a thought provoking discussion and one that is important to watch!
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Mother of one biological child and a teacher/mother to many, Asadah is no stranger to raising children. Asadah has been teaching in classroom settings for over fifteen years, and provided youth development and parenting workshops for ten years. She was an Administrator of an afterschool program and an Outreach Coordinator for a parenting program; both in Harlem, NY. Being an educator, Asadah learned to handle problems with wisdom and not violence.
Her sincere care for the welfare and outcome of the lives of her students can be seen through her actions and heard from the comments of the people she serves. Beating Black Kids is Asadah’’s first published book and her way of getting her viewpoint and solutions out to the entire world. While she has welcomed many thanks for creating this work, Asadah is also courageous and certain enough to handle the many challenges that come from those who feel beating Black kids as a normal practice.
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RESOURCES/LINKS:
Asada’s website: http://www.beatingblackkids.com
Connect with Asada:
Phone: 646-359-6605
Email: beatingblackkids@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Beating-Black-Kids-102638146593/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/beatingblackkid
Website: http://www.soulfulchicagobookfair.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/BeatingBlackKids
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