Shame-Proof Parenting Is A Journey.
If you’re here then a part of you resonates with the idea that you can be a Shame-Proof Parent. But, then again, another part of you is wondering what that even means!
A Shame-Proof Parent is not shame-free, nor are they perfect.
When you make the decision to become a Shame-Proof Parent you are committing to a journey that includes:
- Being more connected to your own imperfect humanness,
- Being empathetic to yourself and your child’s imperfections,
- Being committed to connecting with yourself and your child,
- Being ready to look at how shame affects your parental identity,
- Being open to the work that goes into laying a foundation for your parenting,
and most of all…
- Being ready to create a Shame-Proof Parenting parental identity that is unique to you and your family.
That might all sound like a bunch of foolishness to you – especially since you’re looking for strategies to manage unwanted behaviors, calm the chaos in your home, and regain your sanity…
However, the solution to your common parenting issues is not in the actual day-to-day instances that nag at you. Rather, the solution lies in reframing your understanding of your parental identity – the part of you that became the steward of another human.
That identity has to have space to grow, be seen, and be heard before you can create the change you’re looking for in your family. Coincidentally, many of the parenting books/articles you’ve read say the same about your child, don’t they?
This is where the idea of Shame-Proof Parenting Intensives emerged!
In this full-day, 1-on-1 intensive session, we do talk about strategies for how to maintain a semblance of sanity in your home. But, we also do so much more!
When you choose to dive deeper during a Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive, you’re getting a space to:
- Find your own unique parental identity so you’re not fumbling around trying to implement parenting strategies that don’t feel right for you
- Learn how to connect with your child so that you both can withstand behaviors, conflict, and chaos together
- Develop ways to actually take care of yourself that go beyond the buzzword “self-care”
- And, learn how to create a shame-proof armor around your family so the outside world can no longer make you feel less than as a parent or as a family
Ready to dive in? Complete the interest form here! See if you can benefit from an intensive designed to heal you, your parental identity, and your family!
As a licensed psychotherapist and parent coach, I have seen a real change in families when parents get the support they need to feel confident and competent in their parenting.
So much of the world treats parents as if they should have it all figured out. They shame parents for every decision they make and then condemn parents for not making the decisions they need to make for their families. It’s a cycle that spurs nothing but unhealthiness for the entire family.
How are you supposed to do what society wants when what society wants changes from day to day?
Our Shame-Proof Parenting Intensives dive into that cycle and its effects on your sanity, your parental identity, your relationship with your kids, and your image of yourself.
When you know how these external forces play into your decision-making as a parent, then you can create the type of family that feels authentically real to you – as opposed to the family that everyone wants you to have.
You can get to the vision of the family you want – but first, you’ve got to have a space to journey through your thoughts, fears, anxieties, successes, and ideals. You’ve got to know how your expectations of yourself and your children weigh heavily on your reactions to your family. And, most importantly, you’ve got to name the way shame has infiltrated your parental identity.
When your child is “acting out” or you’re at your wit’s end with another sibling fight or you dread looking at your voicemails for fear that it’s the school calling again, you’re in survival mode. This mode is covered in shame, guilt, anger, sadness, and even a bit of regret. This was not the family you envisioned. This is not the parent you wanted to be.
But, as they say: Every cloud has a silver lining.
While going on a parenting journey is the last thing on your mind when you’re in survival mode, I can assure you that being in constant survival mode is also something you’d like to be rid of. The idea of working in the Shame-Proof framework is not to put out fires constantly – you’ve been doing that and it’s starting to wear at your self-image and parental identity. In survival mode, every decision is a desperate attempt to stop the chaos and every conflict becomes a heavy load on the family. No one can live like this!
When we work together throughout this intensive, we’ll explore how your past influences your current parenting, how to get yourself and your family out of survival mode, and how to lay the foundation that will create lasting change for your parental identity and your family’s overall well-being.
Shame-Proof Parenting Intensives are not a quick fix, nor are they a magic pill.
This intensive is an experience that changes the way you see yourself and your family. It introduces a set of skills that helps you and your family handle conflicts, behavior issues, academic concerns, peer issues, family disruption, mental health diagnoses, parenting shame, and everything else thrown at your family in a way that keeps you connected and healthy together.
So, I’m on board. But, what exactly are Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive?
This new offering is specifically designed to target the traumas and past memories that are becoming a barrier to you fully embracing your parenting role. With my years of experience in child welfare, family systems theory and intervention, and parent coaching, we’ll work together on your journey to not only be the best parent you can be but also uncover the debilitating belief and feelings that stop you from being the best version of yourself.
During the full-day intensive, you’ll be introduced to strategies that will change the way you not only see your parenting but also how you see yourself as a full human. You are raising a full human, but you also deserve to be a full human too. So, intensives are just that. We dive into what you believe are the barriers to being the parent you wanted to be. We explore what brings you joy, what triggers you, and what your dreams are for yourself and your family. We discuss your past memories and how they can influence your current identity as a parent. And we do that through tools designed specifically to target your needs, your goals, and your unique parental identity.
Okay, that makes sense. But, what happens during the intensive?
Great question. Here’s a brief breakdown of what happens during the full-day intensive:
- 9:00am – 10:00a: Introduction/Assessments/Planning
- 10:00a – 12:00p: Resourcing/Reprocessing Memories and Themes
- 12:00p – 1:00p: Lunch
- 1:00p – 3:00p: Reprocessing Memories and Themes
- 3:00p – 5:00p: Wrapping Up/Closing the Day
Why do an intensive?
An intensive is a way to empower a client to fully embrace their healing journey in an intensive but short period of time. In these intensives, there will be multiple mini-sessions throughout the day where we work to uncover and heal past traumas that may get in the way of you being the best parent you can be!
New research shows that intensive treatment for trauma and stress can be extremely effective in symptom reduction. Your guide on your Shame-Proof Parenting journey is a skilled expert in family systems theory, positive parenting curriculums, and the Parental Identity Development Model. Along with those skills, I am also trained in Brainspotting, EMDR, Mindfulness techniques, multicultural perspectives, and have over a decade of experience creating lasting change in families.
What is included in a Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive?
- Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive Consultation to assess for candidacy, as well as explore what an intensive might look like for you.
- Personalized Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive Workbook which allows you to work on your treatment goals before, during, and after our intensive.
- Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive Package with goodies to support before, during, and after the intensive encouraging you to continue using the strategies and keep up the work done!
- A custom Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive Program with targeted goals. Intensives are done virtually for a full day. In-person options are available upon request.
- Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive Post-Checkup to assess and support your adaption to positive changes from our intensive.
What are the pros to doing a Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive?
- Process more healing in a shorter amount of time.
- Dedicate one full day focusing on healing, growth, and connection.
- It’s cost-effective since intensives are highly focused – requiring less time and overall cost to you on your healing journey.
- No more scheduling your weeks around therapy sessions, leaving you more time to connect to yourself and your family.
- Make a lasting change and take care of your whole self so that you can connect with your child’s whole self.
What is the cost of the Shame-Proof Parenting Intensive?
Intensives are self-pay. Insurance does not cover the costs, as intensives are not part of coverage plans. There are also no insurance codes for intensives for billing, so clients cannot submit claims to insurance themselves.
- Full-Day (8 hours): $3,000
Okay! I’m ready! How can I schedule a session?
That’s awesome! Complete the interest form here!
