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In this episode of The Family Couch with Dr. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist specializing in children, we discuss peaceful parenting for imperfect parents and what that means day to day. Dr. Laura shares how as adults it is not our intention to not bring our emotional baggage into our relationship with children but we are human, and should be aware of triggers.
We dive into the importance of operating at a higher level of self care – and what that actually means at the most basic level – so we can give our best selves to our children. She shares that the self care, at its most basic form really is just the way you speak to yourself and how you interact within your own mind. We discuss how one cannot be emotionally generous to someone else if you are not doing so already internally and the long term correlations in parenthood.
Next, we jump into the importance of allowing children to grieve a disappointment (such as, saying no to an expensive birthday party, choosing to budget funds elsewhere) and how that decision creates resilience in children. The support a parent provides during the sadness they experience is imperative for growth to occur.
Dr Laura explains why it is up to parents to teach these skills and how it will impact your child later in life. It is not about telling them you can not afford it, it is about teaching them the most important lesson – your child has a mother or father that understands and supports him/her no matter what.
We candidly discuss the importance in teaching emotional intelligence to our children, even if you are a parent that grew up in an environment where you this did not exist. Dr. Laura shares how to avoid the triggers that could cause a negative reaction in high pressure situations and how to instead pause, think, and calmly decide next steps.
Lastly, we dive into the controversial subject of spanking: the pros, cons and long term effects on children. Dr. Laura talks passionately about how these actions impact the child and shares what parents can do if they are found in a situation where they do “pop” a child to prevent an action, i.e. – to stop from getting hurt, in danger, out in public, etc. to explain what happened and repair that relationship with your children.
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Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she’s also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want.
Dr. Laura is the author of the books Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings:How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life.
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